Surveys
reveal that 50% of people of faith are not connected to a Congregation. No
doubt most of these people were part of a worship center sometime in their past
but for a variety of reasons are no longer. A comment often heard from such
individuals is “I’m spiritual but not religious.” However, there are certain
life events that usually involve a religious service of some order. These
happenings include weddings, funerals, baptisms or dedications.
Clergy,
professional members of religious organizations, are often called upon to lead
and officiate at such events. It is a service opportunity that ordained
individuals are glad to be invited to participate in. Most often people will
contact a clergy person who is part of a denomination they have had some previous
history with; or a place located in the nearby vicinity.
Now to the
question of when to call. Most clergy who officiate at weddings usually require
some premarital counseling that includes wedding particulars as well as marital
advice. Contacting clergy six to nine months prior to the wedding date helps to
fit this into all the other details that need planning and scheduling.
Funerals
generally do not require as long a process. Most often the passing of a loved
one or friend is sudden and unexpected. That stated there is wisdom in giving
some thought to where, what and who should be involved. Writing this down and
or letting others know your preferences makes it easier for those left behind
to make the decisions on these things when the need arises.
In situations
where there is a protracted illness, contacting a clergy person will enable
them to minister to the dying person and their family members. Calling upon a
religious leader who has had some connection with the deceased and their family
certainly helps to be of comfort at such a time of loss.
Baptism,
christening and dedications are joyful celebrations that usually include some
planning and event preparations so several months in advance to the date is
preferable.
The last
matter is what amount should be the offering or honorarium for the officiant.
Guidance for this may depend upon the size and budget for the event. I for one
leave this up to the family to decide but other clergy may have specific
amounts in mind so the best advise is to simply ask.
