Who and When to Call

      Surveys reveal that 50% of people of faith are not connected to a Congregation. No doubt most of these people were part of a worship center sometime in their past but for a variety of reasons are no longer. A comment often heard from such individuals is “I’m spiritual but not religious.” However, there are certain life events that usually involve a religious service of some order. These happenings include weddings, funerals, baptisms or dedications.

      Clergy, professional members of religious organizations, are often called upon to lead and officiate at such events. It is a service opportunity that ordained individuals are glad to be invited to participate in. Most often people will contact a clergy person who is part of a denomination they have had some previous history with; or a place located in the nearby vicinity.

      Now to the question of when to call. Most clergy who officiate at weddings usually require some premarital counseling that includes wedding particulars as well as marital advice. Contacting clergy six to nine months prior to the wedding date helps to fit this into all the other details that need planning and scheduling.

      Funerals generally do not require as long a process. Most often the passing of a loved one or friend is sudden and unexpected. That stated there is wisdom in giving some thought to where, what and who should be involved. Writing this down and or letting others know your preferences makes it easier for those left behind to make the decisions on these things when the need arises.

      In situations where there is a protracted illness, contacting a clergy person will enable them to minister to the dying person and their family members. Calling upon a religious leader who has had some connection with the deceased and their family certainly helps to be of comfort at such a time of loss.

      Baptism, christening and dedications are joyful celebrations that usually include some planning and event preparations so several months in advance to the date is preferable.

The last matter is what amount should be the offering or honorarium for the officiant. Guidance for this may depend upon the size and budget for the event. I for one leave this up to the family to decide but other clergy may have specific amounts in mind so the best advise is to simply ask.