Who and When to Call

      Surveys reveal that 50% of people of faith are not connected to a Congregation. No doubt most of these people were part of a worship center sometime in their past but for a variety of reasons are no longer. A comment often heard from such individuals is “I’m spiritual but not religious.” However, there are certain life events that usually involve a religious service of some order. These happenings include weddings, funerals, baptisms or dedications.

      Clergy, professional members of religious organizations, are often called upon to lead and officiate at such events. It is a service opportunity that ordained individuals are glad to be invited to participate in. Most often people will contact a clergy person who is part of a denomination they have had some previous history with; or a place located in the nearby vicinity.

      Now to the question of when to call. Most clergy who officiate at weddings usually require some premarital counseling that includes wedding particulars as well as marital advice. Contacting clergy six to nine months prior to the wedding date helps to fit this into all the other details that need planning and scheduling.

      Funerals generally do not require as long a process. Most often the passing of a loved one or friend is sudden and unexpected. That stated there is wisdom in giving some thought to where, what and who should be involved. Writing this down and or letting others know your preferences makes it easier for those left behind to make the decisions on these things when the need arises.

      In situations where there is a protracted illness, contacting a clergy person will enable them to minister to the dying person and their family members. Calling upon a religious leader who has had some connection with the deceased and their family certainly helps to be of comfort at such a time of loss.

      Baptism, christening and dedications are joyful celebrations that usually include some planning and event preparations so several months in advance to the date is preferable.

The last matter is what amount should be the offering or honorarium for the officiant. Guidance for this may depend upon the size and budget for the event. I for one leave this up to the family to decide but other clergy may have specific amounts in mind so the best advise is to simply ask.

His Cross and ours

This message appeared in the "Faith Matters" column of the New Haven Register - early Sunday, April 21, 2019

On Palm Sunday the Church celebrates Christ’s triumphal entry into Jerusalem. Jesus rode into the City on a donkey accompanied by His disciples and to the greeting of the crowds who shouted, “Hosanna to the son of David! Blessed is he who comes in the Name of the Lord!” (Matthew 21:9).

Unfortunately, the joy of Palm Sunday begins to dissipate as we remember the events of Holy Week two thousand years ago that culminated with the night of agony in Gethsemane and the suffering on Calvary’s cross on Good Friday. The Gospel accounts clearly state that Jesus knew in advance these turn of events before He went to Jerusalem.

After Peter’s great confession at Caesarea Philippi, that Christ is the Son of the Living God, “Jesus began to explain to His disciples that He must go to Jerusalem and suffer many things at the hands of the elders, chief priests and teachers of the Law, and that He must be killed and on the third day be raised to life” (Matthew 16:21). Observe that the word “must” is repeated in this verse to emphasize the necessity of Christ’s going to Jerusalem to suffer and His being crucified (see Matthew 20:19). The reason that Jesus left Heaven and came to earth was for the purpose of His sacrificial death on the cross. This was the Father’s will for His life that He faced and struggled with in the Garden the night before. 

Jesus realized that there was no getting around the cross and He went to Calvary to finish the mission for which He was sent. When Peter heard Jesus talking about this, he “took Him aside and began to rebuke Him ‘Never Lord!’ he said. ‘This shall never happen to You’” (Matthew 16:22). 

Twice Peter used the word “never” when he addressed the Lord. Jesus’ stern response further underscores the necessity of the cross (see v. 23). Jesus heard the voice of His adversary, Satan, in the words of Peter.

Jesus continues saying this to His disciples, “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for Me will find it. 

What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world yet forfeits his soul. Or what can a man give in exchange for his soul!” (Matthew 16:24-26). While Jesus was facing the cross, He stated the necessity of the cross for us as well. For Jesus the cross (a means of execution and not merely a burden) meant His literal death. 

The requirement for Christ’s followers is given as a threefold challenge: 1) Denial of self, 2) Taking up the cross, and 3) Following Jesus. The message of the cross is not an easy one. It runs counter with our human nature; but if we are going to be true disciples of Christ, then there is no avoiding what Jesus stated.

The shallow contemporary gospel that is so prevalent today has commercialized Christmas and made it a gift-giving extravaganza. Easter has also been marketed as celebration of hope and renewal that includes the Easter Bunny and eggs. There would be no joy of the resurrection, however, if there had not been His death on the cross. For this reason the cross is the symbol of Christianity.